My First Blowjob

I really liked this guy. And he was a real sweetie. Kind of a nerd, not that popular but he and I were good friends and he used to walk me home after school, sometimes come in to hang out, even though he lived in the opposite direction. We were friend within a bigger group, and one night a few of us went out and we ended up at the beach. We were all walking along and then found a nice big front lawn right up against the beach so we all climbed up and the lovers seemed to find private areas for themselves, and the last four of us were cuddling on the grass. I was next to my nerdy-sweetie and was pushing my breasts into his arm. We started making out. His hands went under my sweater and he got what I imagine was his first touch of a breast. He seemed to be enjoying himself. Over the proceeding weekends, we found times to meet and make out more. Then one night after a party, everyone had gone their seperate ways home and I decided to text him. I asked him if he wanted to come over. He did. I snuck out of my house when he texted me and walked down the driveway. It was a long driveway, and the gravel was so noisy. At least it seemed that way. We met at the start of my drive and we both were a little nervous. We sat down on a step my the letterboxes and talked and snuggled closer, then started making out. Very quickly his hands went to my breasts, in a familiar way. In an unfamiliar way, I reached towards his crotch. I felt his cock from outside then reached in and felt him in the flesh. He was very hard and hot. I stopped making out with him, and undid his pants and pulled out his very erect penis. It felt big in my hand and looking down I could see it was. I didn't look at him, I just moved down slowly. I stuck my tongue out and put it on his cock. His foreskin was still covering the head. I swirled my tonue around the head, then took him in my mouth. It felt very strange, but I kept going becuase it felt good too. I could hear him breathing heavily, moaning a little bit. I continued to suck his cock, I really started to enjoy it and I could tell he was enjoying it too. I stopped sucking him for a minute and came back up face to face with him. He looked like a possum in the headlights. I won't forget that look. I guess it was in amazement that something could feel so good. He really was a cutie, my nerd boy with the big dick. He didn't come that time, but we did get a lot of practice time in once we realised what fun sex could be. And it was strange, because I felt like I always knew it, and I am glad I had that sweet nerd to explore the beginnings with.

My Blowjob Basics - The Foundations of a Blowjob

Essential to any blowjob are these blowjob basics. No teeth; wetness; warmth; friction. Some extras are: eye contact; a clear view; dirty talk or other sounds of enjoyment. If you start a blowjob with teeth bared, you are unlikely to get positive feedback. Teeth should not contact the head of the penis. Sometimes the shaft is ok as the shaft is less sensitive so it can handle a bit more rough play, but the skin on the head is very sensitive. No teeth!! Wetness can be your saliva or you can use lube. The wetness helps to transfer the heat from your mouth or hand to his cock, and it assists your mouth or hand to slide over his cock with a smooth amazing sensation. A wet blowjob, or even a sloppy blowjob is the best kind. Warmth is good. It feels nice. Cold has a numbing effect so it makes sense to keep things down there nice and warm, where sensation is the main goal. Friction without wetness is just chaffing, so use some saliva or lube! Friction is created by applying pressure to movement. So licking, sucking while bobbing up and down his shaft, stroking will cause a delicious friction that the penis definitely enjoys. So that is the blowjob basics – the foundation of a great blowjob. To make your blowjob really amazing, then of course you also need a loving, willing, exciting and confident attitude. The extras at the top are part of your attitude – your actions and gestures that communicate how you feel giving your lover head.

Letting the Cum Spill

This is bit of a dirty post. I haven't posted in a while and I haven't posted any personal stories in an even longer while, and last I just had a bit of inspiration... My beau has been texting me all day, and I have been encouraging him. This was my first text from this morning (annoying text language translated): "When you palmed my ass check in bed this morning, I wished you hadn't stopped ;)" My second to last text, in response to his "You better not have any panties on when I get home ;)" was: "I just took them off." He got home, came in and his smirk of a smile was exactly what I was hoping for. I was standing by the counter and he came around behind me. "I'm hungry" he said close to my ear while hugging me from behind. I got a feel for what kind of state he was in by leaning back into him. He pulled me tighter, my butt and his crotch making the most contact. "You're on dinner tonight" I said. "Not food hungry." He crouched down behind me and pulled me out a bit so I could bend at the waist, giving him better access to my pussy. My skirt went up and if I had any on - this is where my panties would have gone down. He started licking me and "ohhhhh" it was good. He was licking me hard. He was getting me everywhere - like a madman. My clit to my asshole, and spending a lot of time getting a good taste. It felt good to be so thoroughly eaten. Not good in a make me come way, but still really good. He got up and I turned around but he grabbed my hips and kept me facing the counter. "Don't move." After undoing his pants, he put his cock between my legs so when he thrust, the top of his cock was sliding against my pussy, ticking my clit. I put my legs together to trap him there, and he dry humped me for a few strokes, then pulled back enough to release his cock and as his erection pulled up, the head slipped into my pussy. Then he changed direction and slid into me. Slowly, until he was most of the way in. It filled me. Then he pulled out, spreading my come around so that his second stroke was able to go all the way in, filling me again. We fucked. It was good. Natural and animal. Then I wanted to suck him. By this point, I was naked, he was still standing in his pants, but shirt off. I dropped down and took him in my mouth. I went straight to get him off mode. I was sucking his head and using my hand at the same time. My tongue was working on his sweet spot (fraenulum area). Just pushing against it as my head moved up and down. His hands came down to my head, his fingers were in my hair. My other hand was on his balls, but I reached up and touched his belly. I stopped sucking, using my hand more vigorously while I reached up further and grabbed his nipple. I squeezed it hard. This was mostly for my pleasure. I like to see him grimace. Then I went back to sucking his cock. He started thrusting and moaning and telling me he was getting close. Then he came. The texting all day had worked. He was primed, so to speak. He came into my mouth and was making a lot of noise. (We always laugh about each other's noises afterward.) As his come shot into my mouth, I didn't swallow. I just kept pushing it out of my mouth, letting it drool out. Some dripped on my leg but most went on the floor. He looked down at me and said "You're such a porn star." He got some tissues for me to wipe my face, and then we went to take a shower. He's cooking dinner now.

I am hung over. And I am writing this at work. There is something special, a little bit magical, about watching the letters appear on the screen as I hit the keys, trying to type out a special message to whoever might deign to read it. I am sitting here, trying not to be noticed. It’s just one of those days where I am not into doing the normal office thing (see top line). So in the spirit of being not noticed, let me talk about balls. I am making this jump because often balls are not noticed so much, or are often forgotten about during a blowjob. The balls, or to be specific, the scrotum is a fun area to play with and guys love it. I find that playing with his scrotum I feel like a kitten with a ball of twine. I don’t know why, that’s just how it is. I have to remind myself that they are not and I am not. And that were I to forget it, he would be in serious pain. I like that. It’s something you learn instinctively after giving a few blowjobs, that it feels good for the guy if you lick, suck, play with his balls, but at the same time they are sensitive. It wasn’t until I had it explained to me that it was the scrotum or the skin that feels good, and the testicles themselves don’t really get any pleasure. If “aggravated” they will cause pain, but no pleasure. It is the scrotum which gets the pleasure, and can in fact handle a fair amount of attention as long as the testicles aren’t aggravated. Balls. Funny things. Often forgotten, but can be a lot of fun to play with. For a quick blowjob, there isn’t much need to spend time with them, but for a real blowjob, while I stroke him with my hand, I love to get his balls and that whole area wet and sloppy. Then I just slide around like a sucker fish all over his balls, that special place under the balls, up his cock, between his balls and his leg, above his cock, everywhere. Balls should always be clean shaven. To warrant the attention I like to show his balls, there can’t be hair getting in the way. To all guys out there, if you want or currently get your balls looked after, for her comfort, keep yourself well groomed. Enough for today. Back to work.

part II - Change Your Mindset

So this is the second part of an article originally entitled “Why do you like to give head?” If we assume that (and I realise here that this is starting to sound something like a college term paper, forgive me) it is the givers’ perspective, their mind set which determines whether they enjoys giving head and not anything else, then that leads us to accept that by changing one's mind set, the giver can go from disliking oral love to enjoying the act of spoiling her man with a good loving blowjob. Now, why would you want to change this? For one, it could be beneficial to the couple’s relationship, as good bedroom relations are such an important part of a happy overall relationship. If you are happy with other parts of your relationship but just doesn't like giving head, then you might be willing to think about trying this. For others who aren’t happy with their relationship and have little interest in pleasing their partner, then these couple obviously won't be reading this and I will leave that at that. So back to the main point, whether or not you like giving head is all a state of mind, and if you think it might help you (and perhaps elicit a stronger love and admiration from your lover), then how can you become a woman who would answer the first, rather than the second question? The answer is to change your mind set, and again I hear you ask "How?" “[l]How can I enjoy giving head?[/l]” Think about other things you enjoy doing. And I don’t mean things like eating chocolate, because that is more about why you like chocolate and not the doing of it, if you understand me. So for example, if you go to the gym and have been for a while, then chances are you started out not enjoying it very much but now it’s not so bad, perhaps you even enjoy it. At first, training was difficult, your body wasn’t used to it and it made you sore, sweaty and tired. You found reasons to avoid going and didn’t see how it was helping you. But after a while, going to the gym wasn’t so hard any more. You found a place in your daily routine for it, you started to see what it was doing for you and training became easier. You didn’t hate it anymore and you in a way started to enjoy pushing yourself for the gains that training brings. So can you do the same in the bedroom, with blowjobs? I think you can. For anything one enjoys you can find things about it you don’t enjoy. For it to be enjoyable, the good things must be more important to you than the bad things. Also, like going to the gym, you must persist. It will become easier and get better. Anyway, let me write more later on specific ways to make it easier for you to practice giving the man you love exquisite oral pleasure. It’s is easy to see that with practice you will get better which will make it easier for you and that in turn will help you to enjoy giving him a blowjob. So, to recap. • We started out with a question: “Why do(n’t) you like giving head?”. • We established that the answer comes down to personal preference (and other factors that have come to determine that preference). • We postulate that if we can change ones preference, an individual can go from disliking the act of performing fellatio on their partner to enjoying the sexual oral art. • We looked at other examples of activities people come to enjoy after starting out with a general dislike of. • We realised one must persist and break past the inconveniences till it becomes either an enjoyable activity or at least bearable. So they say “practice make perfect”, but it seems practice also makes something we don’t like easier and thus more enjoyable. Practice, practice, practice!

Why do you like giving head? - part I

I put this question to you: "Why do you like giving head?" If you don't, then: "Why don't you like giving head?" I feel like the answer to these questions will mostly be descriptive narratives about what someone gets out of giving a blowjob, the enjoyment they get seeing the pleasure they are giving, the power they feel over controlling their partner's pleasure and other very fine things about what makes giving a blowjob great. And for those who answer the second question, I feel the answers will be along the lines of the act being unrewarding, it is a selfish act with only enjoyment for the giver, it is degrading, why do I want to put that in my mouth and other very relevant reasons for those answerers. And really, the above are answers to a slightly different question: "What do you like about giving head?" The real answer to "Why do you like giving head?" is actually along the lines of: it is simply a matter of who we are. Why do I like giving head? Well, perhaps it is the way I was brought up, the magazines I read swayed my perceptions, perhaps I am genetically pre-disposed, but either way, I like it. What I am getting at here is that if you put two different people in the same situation, they will have a different experience and feel differently about that same situation. One woman might be put in front of a guy who likes to sit back and watch her just give him head all day, let her do all the work and she will love it. Another woman might find him to be a lazy slob, repulsive to her, expecting her to do all the work which is not in any way rewarding to her. The only difference is in the mind set, the state of mind of the present giver. So what can we do with this idea? ...Let me continue this thought next week.

Bad Blowjob Tips - Blowjob with a Mint

So recently I was looking around for some new blowjob ideas, new things I could try; to see if there was something I could learn to pass on to readers of my how to give a blowjob website guide. I stumbled accross something I had heard and read a few times before and thought "It's worth a try". This person had suggested trying a minty addition to your blowjob. Just pop a mint in your mouth and keep going with the blowjob as you were. The strange thing was　I instinctively knew that there was no way that technique was going to be reciprocated. Mint, or essence of mint does not mix with pussy, at least not mine. I knew it would be a burning and not a pleasant sensation to receive minty oral, but neither I nor he thought it would be bad for him. So as I was giving him head, I reached for the mints. "Ready to try something new honey? I heard having a mint in the mouth can feel a bit different." I think he tried to make a joke about fresh breath, then I popped one in and took his cock back into my mouth. (FYI: I was using one of those small breath-mints, sugar free and this one was of a particularly strong variety.) I was just bobbing up and down, swirling my toungue and the saliva in my mouth around his head and started complaining pretty quickly. "Ow, don't put it right on the head." From the start I had kept it on my tongue, so there was direct contact with the head. After choosing the strongest mints, I think this was my second mistake. "Ow, Ow, it's just burning me baby, ah, take it out!" So, that was that for the mint idea. I took the mint out and he wanted me to keep going. He complained that it was still burning, and eventually we quit because apparently he couldn't feel anything after the minty burn. So nothing came of that blowjob... If you have read this, and realise as I do that perhaps with a milder mint and no direct contact between mint and head of penis it might not be so bad, give it a go and let me know how it goes. We will be trying it again at some point(he's a trooper), though obviously with milder mints and a bit more caution next time. I will keep you posted.

My Hate on Helpful Blowjob Advice

If you read a lot of girly magazine sex advice, or visit online forums for, you will inevitably get the helpful advice that you don’t need to do anything you don’t want to. Of course, I am thinking about this specifically in relation to blowjobs. A lot of women will wonder why their husband/boyfriend always asks for head, and when they ask for advice, there is always someone ready to tell them “If you don’t like it, don’t feel pressured to do it.” Now while of course I agree with that statement in general, there are exceptions. I feel that if you love your husband, if you are both healthy and well, then you should have no problem giving him head and if he has to ask for it, that is a terrible thing. (Well, asking isn’t too bad, but I get the feeling that in these cases the guy is asking out of desperation – that isn’t cool.) If you don’t like it, learn to like it. Take control so that the blowjob is something that gives you power rather than something that makes you feel derogated. Blowjobs and all parts of sex are a great tool to build a fun and healthy relationship. Use these tools. Just because you don’t love doing it, and some do-gooder says “Don’t do it if you don’t want to”, don’t use that as an excuse. Look after your man and he will love you for it. Look after your relationship and you will be happier for it. When you were in school, the subjects you didn’t like were the ones you weren’t good at. Try giving him head more often, get good at it, show him you love it and you might find you start to like it. When you get good at something like that, it’s hard not to enjoy it yourself. A note for anyone wondering about him and shouldn’t he also give her head, well fuck yes, of course! But please remember this is BlowjobHow-TheBlog, so forgive this rant, indeed this whole blog and site for being one sided and focusing on blowjobs, that’s what we do.

Waiting for him working late

Here I am sitting at home, waiting for him to get home. I am wondering if I should give him head today. He has been a good boy, and today he has had a long day at work – today he had to stay late. So I am wondering would he like a blowjob when he gets home, or would he rather just a nice dinner waiting for him. Should I spend the next hour before he gets home dolling myself up, spending the time in the shower shaving myself smooth for him for if the blowjob turns to something more *wicked grin*. So should I spend some time doing my make-up so I look really sexy, with especially glossy lips that would look so perfect wrapped around the shaft of his hard cock, ready to relieve all the stress of the day? Which would he prefer to have satisfied first, his hunger (for no doubt his stomach will be growling) or his lust. Which is the best surprise for the male of today? In the end it kind of comes down to what I want, and today I want to spoil him with my mouth. There are leftovers in the fridge, so we can eat those after I have sated his lust and my desire for his throbbing shaft. I don’t know exactly why I want it, but it could be the power I wield when I have his cock between my lips, indeed, between my teeth. Or it could just be the expression of selfless love that giving head embodies. When someone does something like that and there is no reciprocation expected or demanded or taken, then you can’t help but feel a wonderful feeling of being loved. I want to show him that, I want to selflessly give him the gift of pleasure and love. So... shower time!!

The Best Blowjobs

So today I was thinking to myself, the best blowjobs for him are the ones that aren't solely for the purpose of the result - that is, the best ones aren't the ones where she is in a rush to make him cum. Blowjobs, like all good things in life, should be undertaken purely for the enjoyment of the act itself. Admittedly, sometimes you do just need to hurry it up, but when you want to give a really good blowjob, when you want to make it a special treat for him. Don't start out with the end already in sight. Don't make it a race to the finish. Just because you are giving him head, doesn't make it a good blowjob - a good blowjob is a thing of luxury so don't rush it! Both of you should get comfortable, get very comfortable. Turn the lights down. Then take a moment for yourself to think about something that will get you going. Perhaps take the time to paint some warming lubricant on your nipples and blow on them while he is watching, then smile at him, to get the mood and the focus just right. Then settle down to enjoy a blowjob. If he is soft, enjoy that while it lasts, enjoy his soft cock in your mouth and enjoy the feeling of it coming to life. If it is hard, take a different approach and just ignore it and enjoy watching his scrotum react to your cool breath as you gently blow across his balls, then to your warm mouth. Take his cock into your mouth, and luxuriate in it. Enjoy how it feels to both of you. Stretch out like a cat in the sun and let him feed it to you. Do it however you do it for as long as you both are enjoying it, then when you need to, finish him off. Or if all this sucking and luxuriating in cock has been working you up (not to mention his hands and lips caressing your body throughout) lie belly down and let him gently fuck you to a mutual climax. (Hey, it's a perfect world right?) So that was todays thoughts. When it comes to oral, (for guys and girls) slow is better. Am I right ;)

Blowjob How - The Blog Welcome

Welcome everyone to the first "BlowjobHow The Blog" post. Recently, we have been working on creating BlowjobHow.com - a how to give a blowbjob guide in website form, and realised we needed a blog. We want to keep that site as a simple blowjob guide, just keep things all about how to give the best head and not fill it up with crap. The reason I need a blog is I want to have an outlet for all the extra ideas, tips, and things I think about on a day to day basis(I think about giving head a lot, and what I can do to next thrill my boy) but may not be necessary to a simple guide to a great BJ. And I also thought I might want to share some of my personal experiences with anyone who might stumble upon this blog. So without further ado, I would like to share this story of a lucky guy (a.k.a. my boy) who was on the receiving end of some delicious oral loving. Also, I wrote this from his perspective, they way I like to think he sees it. Hope you enjoy. Sunday after breakfast Suddenly I can’t recall what I was just doing, but she is right infront of me, smiling at me and kissing me with a twinkle in her eyes. Happy mischief. We make out for a while then she takes my t-shirt off. Feeling my chest, touching my nipples and running her hands down my belly towards the love trail leading down into my jeans, she undoes the first button, pulls the zip down and takes my jeans off. Kissing me again, she asks me if I want to see her body. Hell yes! She takes off her top and removes her bra, and allows her breasts to come into view. The nipples are dark, and seem to tighten in the naked air. Brushing her nipples across my chest, she asks me again, “Do you want to see more?” Yes baby. She lets her jeans slide down her legs and I can see she is wearing a bright pink, sexy pair of panties, lacy along the bottom where they grip her bum and follow the cheeks as they curve in between her legs. They look so good on her, her tight soft butt turns me on. She knows it, and after kissing me and stroking my chest, she turns around and snuggles up against me, catching my hard cock between her cheeks. The first touch against my cock is electric, and I can’t help pulling her to me. No, no, honey, keep your hands on the table. I put my hands on the edge of the table, and she wiggles against me, sliding her butt up and down my erect length, knowing how crazy she is making me. She is giggling as I moan through the pleasure. Turning around once again, her tight nipples intentionally graze my chest, moving down my belly and down my thighs. She avoided my cock, having no mercy. But down seeing her down there, I knew it was going to get better. She pulled my briefs down, and smiled at my tortured state. You are quite hard, baby. She said, stating the obvious. Sweetie! I pleaded. She relented. The first stroke of her tongue was on the underside of my head. So good but I needed more. She took another broad tongued stroke from a little further down, then again from halfway down. Working me slowly, she would lick up the underside of my shaft with a wide tongue, each time from further down, each time right to the tip. Bliss. Taking my balls in hand and pulling them downwards softly, she took one last lick all the way from the base right to the head and then took me in her mouth. It was like magic. The warmth felt so good, and the wet tongue stroking me the whole time was heaven. Saliva started dribbling out her mouth. She worked up and down, always with a hand either on my balls or massaging the part of my shaft that continued behind my balls. I was getting close. I am close baby, keep going. With her hand taking over from her mouth, she stoked my slippery cock and asked me, Do you want to cum in my mouth? Yes. Suck it please baby. She went back on to my cock, stroking and sucking me, the pressure was too much. I let go of the table and held her head gently as I came inside her mouth. She smiled around my cock as my come filled her mouth..