part II - Change Your Mindset

So this is the second part of an article originally entitled “Why do you like to give head?” If we assume that (and I realise here that this is starting to sound something like a college term paper, forgive me) it is the givers’ perspective, their mind set which determines whether they enjoys giving head and not anything else, then that leads us to accept that by changing one's mind set, the giver can go from disliking oral love to enjoying the act of spoiling her man with a good loving blowjob. Now, why would you want to change this? For one, it could be beneficial to the couple’s relationship, as good bedroom relations are such an important part of a happy overall relationship. If you are happy with other parts of your relationship but just doesn't like giving head, then you might be willing to think about trying this. For others who aren’t happy with their relationship and have little interest in pleasing their partner, then these couple obviously won't be reading this and I will leave that at that. So back to the main point, whether or not you like giving head is all a state of mind, and if you think it might help you (and perhaps elicit a stronger love and admiration from your lover), then how can you become a woman who would answer the first, rather than the second question? The answer is to change your mind set, and again I hear you ask "How?" “[l]How can I enjoy giving head?[/l]” Think about other things you enjoy doing. And I don’t mean things like eating chocolate, because that is more about why you like chocolate and not the doing of it, if you understand me. So for example, if you go to the gym and have been for a while, then chances are you started out not enjoying it very much but now it’s not so bad, perhaps you even enjoy it. At first, training was difficult, your body wasn’t used to it and it made you sore, sweaty and tired. You found reasons to avoid going and didn’t see how it was helping you. But after a while, going to the gym wasn’t so hard any more. You found a place in your daily routine for it, you started to see what it was doing for you and training became easier. You didn’t hate it anymore and you in a way started to enjoy pushing yourself for the gains that training brings. So can you do the same in the bedroom, with blowjobs? I think you can. For anything one enjoys you can find things about it you don’t enjoy. For it to be enjoyable, the good things must be more important to you than the bad things. Also, like going to the gym, you must persist. It will become easier and get better. Anyway, let me write more later on specific ways to make it easier for you to practice giving the man you love exquisite oral pleasure. It’s is easy to see that with practice you will get better which will make it easier for you and that in turn will help you to enjoy giving him a blowjob. So, to recap. • We started out with a question: “Why do(n’t) you like giving head?”. • We established that the answer comes down to personal preference (and other factors that have come to determine that preference). • We postulate that if we can change ones preference, an individual can go from disliking the act of performing fellatio on their partner to enjoying the sexual oral art. • We looked at other examples of activities people come to enjoy after starting out with a general dislike of. • We realised one must persist and break past the inconveniences till it becomes either an enjoyable activity or at least bearable. So they say “practice make perfect”, but it seems practice also makes something we don’t like easier and thus more enjoyable. Practice, practice, practice!

Why do you like giving head? - part I

I put this question to you: "Why do you like giving head?" If you don't, then: "Why don't you like giving head?" I feel like the answer to these questions will mostly be descriptive narratives about what someone gets out of giving a blowjob, the enjoyment they get seeing the pleasure they are giving, the power they feel over controlling their partner's pleasure and other very fine things about what makes giving a blowjob great. And for those who answer the second question, I feel the answers will be along the lines of the act being unrewarding, it is a selfish act with only enjoyment for the giver, it is degrading, why do I want to put that in my mouth and other very relevant reasons for those answerers. And really, the above are answers to a slightly different question: "What do you like about giving head?" The real answer to "Why do you like giving head?" is actually along the lines of: it is simply a matter of who we are. Why do I like giving head? Well, perhaps it is the way I was brought up, the magazines I read swayed my perceptions, perhaps I am genetically pre-disposed, but either way, I like it. What I am getting at here is that if you put two different people in the same situation, they will have a different experience and feel differently about that same situation. One woman might be put in front of a guy who likes to sit back and watch her just give him head all day, let her do all the work and she will love it. Another woman might find him to be a lazy slob, repulsive to her, expecting her to do all the work which is not in any way rewarding to her. The only difference is in the mind set, the state of mind of the present giver. So what can we do with this idea? ...Let me continue this thought next week.