Monday, July 25, 2011

Blowjobs and Guys Hands on Your Head

Guys always seem to rest their hands on your head. And writing that line has just given me a sexy idea. I am going to tie my beau's hands to something before I next give him head. Hehehe... the power!!

Anyway, guys always seem to put their hands on your head when you are giving a blowjob. I can't remember if my first boy put his hands on my head when I was giving him my first blowjob, but I remember a few encounters later and halfway through giving him some nice soft wet head, I stopped and looked up at him and said something like "Are you trying to push my head?" - Turns out he was just playing with my ponytail (he was such a sweetie), so I went back to sucking his lovely cock.

And since then I'm sure it has happened pretty much every time. Guys' hands always go to your head. Sometimes it's more a matter of holding hair out of the way so they can get a better view - and I appreciate it too as it stops it getting in my mouth, sometimes it's to hold the hair in a more dominant manner - controlling my movements, and sometimes (and I think this is the more common reason) it's just to lovingly hold and touch the only part of their lovers body they can reach without contorting into an uncomfortable position.

As for me, I can't claim to be any different. If he is giving me head, I love running my fingers over his short hair (or through his longer hair, depending on the season) to show him I love what he is doing. I love holding him where I need him as he makes me come. I love pulling his ears to show him he is on the right track and to keep going. And I can understand why guys do the same (except the ears thing - that's just for girls).

I also think that it is important. Fellatio may be somewhat one sided but it is also making love and shouldn't be a one way street. There should be back and forth communication and is blowjobs or sex a big part of that is touching (which is what I was trying to say here about the two ways of the blowjob street). So when his hands are on my head, I love it. I can tell when I am doing something that feels good by the way he is touching me.

But there is etiquette. Pushing and pulling my head to the rhythm you want is unacceptable. If you don't know why you are an idiot. Pushing my head down is only OK in a few certain circumstances. I won't try describing them all but basically if you don't know that it is OK then don't do it! What is OK is a touch showing love and appreciation, lustful caressing, holding hair back, etc.

Writing that last paragraph has put me in a serious mood, so I will wrap it up here. Guys and them putting their hands on your head - are there any other reasons why they (you) do it? - Leave a comment!

Now I just have to find something to use to tie up my beau and somewhere to do it, if it works out I will share that story in my next post!

5 comments:

  1. I want to have a sense of control of the head bobbing. Perhaps it links with the whole dominant thing, but besides that, it's fun to feel your lover's head move.

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  2. I actually love being "force-fed" cock, but then again, I like being dominated. When I was young, and inexperienced at giving head, and had not yet learned to enjoy it, I did not like a guy holding my head because I found it threatening. Now, I love giving BJs, I love swallowing cum, and I love it when a guy takes hold of my head and sets the rhythm.

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  3. There is obviously a degree to which it is ok and when it is too much and this also changes with your preferences. If you enjoy being "force-fed" his cock then by all means, do what makes you happy because having fun while you are giving head is what is going to make you the lover he wants.
    But to guys, be very sure she is comfortable with what you are doing before taking control. Nothing is more of a turn off than an "pushy" guy.

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  4. I can only speak for myself. I've never had a woman who let me push as I please during her giving me oral. I wish I had. I'm married now and my wife does her best and I love her for that. She lets me put my hand there and even tolerates a little pushing, albeit not much. This is satisfying enough to keep me happy especially when I climax. To have total control, well that's a fantasy for me. There is a gag reflex after all. Any man who has experienced anything close to her not should consider themselves lucky.

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  5. Yeah, well the thing is that sex is a two person game. If you want to play it again then you have to take care of the other person. If you just want to fuck something inanimate, try a doll?

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