Thursday, May 10, 2012

Internet vs Real Life Blowjobs

This is a bit of advice for any girls out there searching the web trying to learn how to give a blowjob, or at least, how to do it better.

The reason you want to do it better is because you love your partner and you want to give them the most pleasure you can when you are indulging in that. But my advice is just to be aware that advice best comes from an somewhere that is there to give advice.

The other place you might look is at porn. Either written or video. This is not the place to learn how to give head or do anything sex related. The reason I say this is that you might be reading some erotic writing, this may even be a real life event that has been transcribed and you might find yourself comparing how you do it to how the person in the story does it. The same thing can happen with video. If you find yourself watching a blowjob on video, you might start measuring yourself against what you see on the video.

Don't. Even if what you are watching is obviously amateur and a real life boyfriend and girlfriend, what you are seeing is a couple who are comfortable being in front of a camera. And then you are only seeing the best of all those people who were confident enough to do what they were doing in front of a camera because the rest isn't likely to get put on the net or even if it is, if it isn't great then it won't stay around for long.

The same goes for stories. If it is a blowjob story, you can trust it isn't going to be the failed attempts that get written down and shared with the world. It is only the best that people want to share. So don't compare yourself with the best of what other people have, just try to have fun being the best you can be. Also, we tend to remember our failures much stronger and this is what we tend to compare with others who are only likely to share their better blowjobs, etc. So don't.

If you want blowjob (or sex, or any) advice, go somewhere that gives that advice. Don't think you need to be like anything you see or read.

(On the other hand, you can always take tips or pointers from what you see - that doesn't hurt. Just don't compare and feel you have to be or do everything you see others doing!)

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