I have made the comparison of blowjobs to giving a gift before, and now I want to extend it.
When you give someone a gift, you don't complain how much it cost or the effort you went to - a gift should be given without imposing any guilt upon the receiver. This should be the same with blowjobs.
You should give a gift out of love or appreciation and because you want to, not out of guilt or obligation and because they expect one. (Don't get me started on the institutions of enforced gift giving known as Valentine’s Day, birthdays, Christmas.) This should be the same with blowjobs.
When you receive a gift, you should receive it graciously, showing your appreciation for the thoughtfulness of the giver in thinking of you and taking the time and energy to get you the gift. This should be the same with blowjobs.
Giving a gift is selfless yet you should take pleasure in the recipient’s joy of receiving a gift. This should be the same with blowjobs.
So what this all comes down to is a kind of circle, where she must enjoy it so he can enjoy it, but her enjoyment comes from his and round we go.
The solution? - Communication! Guys getting a blowjob should be moaning and telling her how good it is, girls should be making a little noise too, encouraging him along. Not to mention non verbal communication. Touch, smile, eye contact, writhe around, shiver. Let yourself go so that you can both enjoy (each others enjoyment of) the blowjob together!
